A relationship coach and so-called ‘love expert’ has revealed the exact moment a person should leave their relationship or marriage.
Getting with someone who becomes your significant other is someone almost all of us crave.
The idea of planning your life together and everything that comes with it – whether that be the likes of having children, getting a dog, or entering in to marriage (or none of these, we don’t judge!) – can be the fuel we need to get through even the hardest of days.
But equally, knowing that it might be time to leave the person you love, or have loved, can be heartbreaking.
As sad as it is, couples split up all the time (Getty Stock Images)
Some embrace their inner Blink-182 and stay together for the kids, others are comfortable and are absolutely terrified of having to start all over again in the dating scene.
But for relationship expert Stephan Labossiere, there is one particular moment where you really should be calling it quits.
And it’s nothing to do with yourself but rather, the other person being unable to communicate and adapt.
“If that person is unwilling to put in the work necessary, it’s time to go,” Labossiere told the Jay Shetty Podcast over on YouTube.
“There are so many times I’ll have a video go up about communication and someone will comment saying ‘I’ve tried talking to him and he doesn’t want to talk to me’. And in my head I’m like ‘why are you still with them if he refuses to talk to you?’.”
Stephan Labossiere is a relationship expert (YouTube / Jay Shetty Podcast)
Labossiere says that if you have tried to speak to your partner and they’re not budging or listening to your concerns about being unhappy, leave as it is ‘not going to magically get better’.
He says: “You’ve already tried, there’s nothing else to do. But people will let it linger on and continue while they consistently complain or are unhappy about this specific issue.
“It’s not going to magically get better. They’re not going to just change it just because all of a sudden they see, ‘oh it needs to change’.
“No, if they’re fighting it now they have no reason to change it and what people have to understand, especially with this whole trying to fix people up, healing and facing your traumas is one of the hardest things for people to do.
“So if they already have you in their life they’re essentially getting the incentive or the benefit of relationship without having to do the deeper work.”
The expert goes on to comparing it to having a job to show how ridiculous a situation you are putting yourself in.
“It’s almost like if I’m at a job and the job says you need to have a Master’s degree to work here but we’re going to hire you anyway and give you time to get that Master’s degree,” he explains.
“If getting that degree is super hard to you you’re gonna drag that out as long as possible yeah.
“You may never get the degree until they fire you. When they fire you and you realise ‘oh my gosh if I don’t do this, I’ll never get this person back, I’ll never get this opportunity back’. Now they might go and get it.”
Elsewhere in his interview, he also explains the ‘love cycle’ which he believes causes many relationships fail.
